Even before the internet I’ve always felt that people are like the shoe store I used to work at for a couple months one summer. There is the “storefront window” which is crafted to create an impression, inviting people see our best side ad putting it right out front. Then there is the store itself, somewhat organized, hopefully friendly. And finally “the back room” which also included the basement, which at that shoe store was a total chaos.
Most of what we encounter in the social media space is designed to be like that showcase window. Common sense tells us this is crafted and not real. I mean, it sort of reflects the store, since you do not put product in the window that are not inside the store. But it is inside the store where we live.
The acronym TMI was coined three decades ago for those people who insist on putting their ugliest selves out there in the broad public. The overly personal stuff that makes people wish they’d had more discipline before they went on their rant.
Thanks for sharing this as a good reminder of what is and isn’t real. Nothing beat eye-to-eye contact in communication. Eyes are a window to the soul.